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Selfless Barnsley Woman Offers Seat At Family's Table

Friday December 13 2013

We Are Barnsley We Are Barnsley

A HARD-UP family will be given a lifeline this Christmas by a Barnsley mum who has offered a seat at her family's table for Christmas dinner.

Mandy Nam, a lecturer at Barnsley College, has posted a message advertising 'A Happy Christmas Day' on the Facebook page Freecycle, which lists items people offer for free.

Hundreds commented on the post, including some offering to buy presents for those worse off then them.

The Facebook advert explains: "This time last year we had lost our home, the house we were moving into was sold under us and we had nowhere to go and no help.

"We'd been living out of boxes for two months and it was the worst time ever.

"This year things are a lot better, we have a nice home and are looking forward to a lovely Christmas and we'd like to share that with someone."

The free ad goes on to say the offer is open to either an individual or someone with children, and that she could even offer transport to and from her home.

Mandy, who has been contacted, said she did not want to add to what she had posted online because she 'wasn't looking for publicity' and she just wants to 'give something back' to someone who was having a hard time.

Mandy's kind gesture comes as Barnsley's Citizens' Advice Bureau is warning people to avoid the lure of expensive payday loans at Christmas, and reveals one case in which someone took out 17 of the high-cost loans.

Chief executive of CAB, Pat Heath, said lots of families were likely to be struggling to make ends meet this Christmas, and urged people to try and avoid high-cost lending.

He said: "You can pretty much guarantee that every new client we get wishing to see our debt specialist will have at least one payday loan.

"We regularly see people with three or four, and the record is 17 separate payday loans."

Pat said people struggling to balance their finances would be better going to the Credit Union as a more affordable alternative.

"What tends to happen with payday loans is they use it at the end of the month to plug a gap between income and expenditure.

"The trouble is, a month down the line, the same gap exists and they end up taking another, and it becomes a downward spiral.

"We fully expect there to be a surge of people coming to us in January once the new year blues starts and these repayments start to bite.

"We'd certainly encourage people to use the Credit Union instead of payday lenders."

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Reply Posted by Liz Ashton Beer on Friday December 13 2013 at 14:32
My family have been doing this for decades. In fact we've done the same this year and have three extra bodies to join us for a great day! Sharing your own good fortune is basic humanity.

Reply Posted by Craig on Friday December 13 2013 at 14:52
it is, so why do you feel the need to brag about it like youa re only doing it to prove a point. the truly selfless and good people in the world often remain silent.

Reply Posted by sue sidebottom on Saturday December 14 2013 at 18:35
Always av extras at xmas people shud not b alone.x

Reply Posted by curious on Monday December 16 2013 at 12:11
how did this go from being such a joyous and festive post to droning on about payday loans... make a separare article for that.
the world is short of people like Mandy, selfless acts of kindness is what this world needs more of! hope you get all you want and more for Christmas, Mandook. you deserve it :-)

Reply Posted by good will on Monday December 16 2013 at 12:15
well done mandy nam, sue sidebottom, and you as well liz ashton beer, barnsley has some wonderful people, hope your christmas is extra special.

Reply Posted by maxine on Monday December 16 2013 at 12:24
Mandy and everyone else who helps the less fortunate, what special selfless ppl you are and I applaud you all! It must feel wonderful to be in such a position to help out others less fortunate, and ask for nothing in return. I have my family around for christmas day dinner (11 of them lol), but if I didn't I'm sure I'd be doing something similar for others! Merry Christmas! :)

Reply Posted by Dawn on Monday December 16 2013 at 12:39
Ive suffered with meningitis this yr n unfortunately it takes time to recover. Im off work atm n finances r stretched. I rang my parents and rrst of familu and said there will be no presents this yr because we need the cash to survive. There will only be the kids that receive gifts this yr. I was really upset but this is just how it goes this yr. But it has made me realise whats important at xmas....and its not a £50 bottle of perfume.
My partner and i have also said when thr kida are older we are having xmas on xmas eve and on xmas day we r feeding the homeless and hungry in a local shelter or soup kitchen. You have to give back all yr but espec xmas when ppl gorge and binge and waste soooo much food.

Reply Posted by Anon on Monday December 16 2013 at 12:45
Wat a lovely gesture. Same craig int as forth coming with is kindness as he is with his comments xx

Reply Posted by Craig on Monday December 16 2013 at 13:26
I gave my legs for my country you moron..

Reply Posted by craig on Tuesday December 17 2013 at 16:15
I wasnt speaking about mandy, i was replying to the first comment.

Reply Posted by John on Monday December 16 2013 at 13:18
Good on ya, at least there's a few people out there willing to show the Xmas spirit

Reply Posted by mand on Monday December 16 2013 at 13:27
Why does one rude person and their uncalled for comments spoil what is a lovely gesture

Reply Posted by ?? on Monday December 16 2013 at 13:40
@ Craig get a grip you lost your legs for the government not this country where not at war with anyone

Reply Posted by Stace on Monday December 16 2013 at 14:17
Craig - Now who is trying to prove a point? Am normally not so blunt but Craig - it was your choice to join the army - you knew the risks! If you have nothing nice to say about the gesture and are wanting the attention of you - then you should be the one who remains silent!!!!!!!!!

Reply Posted by Rachel on Monday December 16 2013 at 15:05
I think thats a great gesture Mandy and glad to know we have great people of barnsley especially Craig for ensuring us Barnsley people do not have the worry of war and giving us our tomorow. Thanks to a hero x

Reply Posted by jay on Monday December 16 2013 at 15:30
Yes craig who trying to brag now should have kept your mouth shut and for all we know you could just be saying that you no legs cos ypu feel bad for what u said about mandy

Reply Posted by Craig on Monday December 16 2013 at 19:46
I wish that was the truth Jay i really do mate

Reply Posted by unjust on Monday December 16 2013 at 15:57
People on here are being unjustly cruel to Craig! The guy has an opinion and many of the posts attacking him are vile to say the least. Maimed in the army or not,the guy has a point of view! Why are some on here so horrible! They critisise Craig but in doing so their posts are far worse than his! Use your heads before you make cruel posts!

Reply Posted by maxine on Monday December 16 2013 at 17:59
I agree we all have an opinion, and if we all thought the same we would never have discussions or debates. However there are ways of putting ones point across with out being rude, and in my opinion Craige was being down right rude and disrespectful to Mandy, (who probably didn't ask for any publicity in the first place). Regardless of race, gender, religion and yes even disability (!), there is no need for being disrespectful, especially to one showing selfless generosity.

Reply Posted by unjust on Monday December 16 2013 at 18:44
That Maxine is the point of debate. Personally I didn't think Craig was rude,and neither have you. You have both expressed your thoughts that's all,yet Craig,s been savaged. Unjustly so too. We probably won't agree,but everyone is allowed to air their own opinion,if we don't agree,so be it,but name calling etc.is an injustice.
Best wishes to Mandy.

Reply Posted by Craig on Monday December 16 2013 at 19:47
thanks un-just

Reply Posted by unjust on Monday December 16 2013 at 19:55
Craig,thank you for serving in our armed forces and Im assuming that your no longer with them, you're still being brave and strong coping with your disability. Instead of the nasty warriors(lol) on here, slating you,they should apologise....but probably won't. Trolls don't do that.

Reply Posted by Lacy on Monday December 16 2013 at 16:53
I agree unjust, Craig wasn't abusive with his opinion, he is allowed one! It's all good doing good, but he is right the majority of people doing selfless acts are never heard of as they don't need the praise. That's not to say I don't think that Mandy nam isn't selfless, I think it's a great idea and good on her!

Reply Posted by CHRIS on Monday December 16 2013 at 17:24
Good will to all

Reply Posted by Mandynam on Monday December 16 2013 at 20:31
To the person that commented about why I'm seeking publicity, can I just point out I'm not. The Chronicle contacted me and asked me to comment, I refused, as it's not about me. Sadly, as the story is in the public domain, people are printing it. I wish they wouldn't, but I've no power to stop them, sadly.

Reply Posted by Craig on Tuesday December 17 2013 at 16:14
I never said you mandy, i know the story i read it. i was talking about the first comment liz ashton beer, she is the one is ad was braggin.

Reply Posted by dawnc on Monday December 16 2013 at 21:00
If Mandy feels she wants to do a good deed at Christmas that's up to her, its nothing to do with anybody else and if the papers want to print the gesture then so what. Get a grip people and good on you Mandy.

Reply Posted by becca on Monday December 16 2013 at 21:50
This is such a beautiful gesture , we need more people like this in this world.
Much love and grace x ♥♥ have a merry Christmas to all on the comments section

Reply Posted by Craig on Tuesday December 17 2013 at 16:17
just to put things straight i wasnt commenting about mandy! i was talking about the women in the first comment who felt the need to brag about her good deeds!!

Reply Posted by anorak on Wednesday December 18 2013 at 20:47
Craig, Liz is not bragging. I have known her for years and she is a loving and caring person.

Reply Posted by Craig.. on Thursday December 19 2013 at 14:39
im not saying shes not.. im sure she is absolutly lovely but what she was doing was actually playing down mandys good deed as though its a thing of the norm and she should have been doing it for years like her. tis a bit tommy topperish but each to there own.

Reply Posted by amy on Thursday December 19 2013 at 21:27
good lord will people stop commenting and making a to-do about each others comments, your loosing the whole point of the story! its christmas be a little festive and be happy for one another!

Reply Posted by dom on Thursday December 19 2013 at 21:33
can i just say a big thank you to mandy if there was more people like you it would be a better world

Reply Posted by Walter white on Friday December 20 2013 at 00:46
She's going to give the whole family just one seat? Hope their not Asian.. Tight bitch!

Reply Posted by Annoyed on Saturday December 21 2013 at 11:36
Walter, are you being serious? As if you called her a bitch. What is wrong with you????

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